Hi everyone. This is my first post, so I will try to be gentle. By way of introduction, I am a professional photographer and have been a Photoshop user for over 12 years, and currently use CS3. I have been teaching Photoshop for over 8 years now and know a thing or 2 about retouching faces.
To me, the most important aspect of retouching is that it should look realistic. A late mentor of mine, referring to traditional retouching often said that if something looks retouched, the artist didn't do a good job. Retouching should be invisible and realistic looking. The biggest mistake retouchers make is in overdoing it. I have been reading through the forums for a couple of weeks now and have been looking through this thread. I find one common trait in many retouchers and that's the tendency to over whiten eyes. Sometimes teeth as well.
Insensitive, I think you did a great job and if I were the customer, I'd be ecstatic. I would like to offer a couple of observations that I think will take a good job and make it even better. Please bear with me. I've been told I can be longwinded
Looking at the images, I actually think an ideal finished image should be somewhere between "After" and "After#2". It appears that you increased the contrast to add punch to the image. Great idea, but I'd back off a little. Look at her shirt and pearls and specular highlights on her face and forehead. The shirt lost detail, as did the pearls. Her face got very shiny looking as a result of pushing the highlight contrast too far. To me, the bright spots on her face look shiny and greasy. Again, if you back off just a little, it would be perfect.
The whites of the eyes are too stark and white. Again, better than the original, but I would back off a little to make it more realistic. I actually like the skin tone of "After #2" a little better, but would like to see it a little more saturated, but not quite as much as "After"
In cases where increasing highlight contrast causes bright highlights (like the blouse and pearls) to blow out, I usually like to paint on a layer mask to restore the detail back.
As I said, good job. A definite improvement over the original, but if you back off a little, it'll look so realistic, you wouldn't even know it was retouched. It would just look like a great image.
Hope this helped. As I continue to get my feet wet, I'll try to post some more and eventually get some of my samples up.