Thanks Stephen, I read your suggestions , or rather I read the parts I understand and tried a few of those techniques. My eyes are actually sore from squinting at little boxes. And still no satisfaction.
I decided to recalibrate because my photos I took to WalMart last week to be printed on a Fuji Frontier were looking different than what I see on monitor. THen I recalled I went thru this exercise last fall and I had kept the profile I made. When I load that profile the photos in Photoshop now resemble what I just had printed. Hooray.
My monitor is old, my eyes are old. Hmmmmmmmm.
I found some useful info for printing on FujiFrontier here.
http://www.sbphotonews.com/File2Pri.htm